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Three Steps to Set a Healthy Boundary

Social House Wellness Company

May 20, 2021

Boundaries,Mental Health

Updated October 11, 2026 · Social House Wellness Company

Knowing that you need a boundary and saying it out loud are different tasks. You may worry about disappointing someone, seeming unkind, or creating conflict. A useful boundary starts with what you can realistically choose—not a perfect sentence that guarantees someone else will be happy.

1. Identify the limit before the conversation

Name the situation and your capacity. “I keep agreeing to last-minute favors even when I cannot manage them” is more specific than “I need better boundaries.” Ask what you are available for, what you are not available for, and which responsibilities still need to be honored.

Your options may be shaped by caregiving, work, finances, culture, disability, or safety. A boundary that fits someone else’s life may not fit yours. Start with a change you can actually carry out.

2. Use a clear, respectful statement

For time: “I can talk for fifteen minutes, then I need to leave.” For an invitation: “I cannot make it this weekend.” For a topic: “I am not discussing my body or weight.” For a request you need to consider: “Let me check my schedule before I commit.”

You can be warm without giving a long defense. If you want to offer an alternative, make sure you genuinely mean it: “I cannot help Saturday, but I can make that phone call Monday.” An alternative is an option, not a requirement.

3. Decide how you will follow through

A boundary is more useful when the action is within your control. “If the conversation turns to insults, I will end the call and revisit it later” names what you will do. It is different from promising to make the other person stop feeling upset.

If the request is repeated, calmly repeat the same answer rather than creating a new explanation each time. If your circumstances change, you can revise an agreement openly. Flexibility does not erase the original limit.

When guilt or pushback shows up

Feeling guilty does not automatically mean you made the wrong choice. Check the facts: Did you communicate honestly? Are you meeting responsibilities that are yours? Is the limit workable? You can care about someone’s disappointment without taking every request back.

If setting a limit could trigger violence, coercion, or retaliation, prioritize safety and confidential support. You are not responsible for preventing another person’s abuse by finding the right wording. Consider safety-planning resources.

Practice with one manageable situation

Write your limit in one sentence and choose the follow-through in advance. For more on the distinction between limits and demands, read Boundaries vs. Control. If these patterns keep repeating, Explore individual therapy at Social House in Katy, or contact our team about fit and availability, including online options in Texas.

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Works with: Children, teens, and adults
Languages: English and Spanish
Focus: Anxiety, family stress, identity, and relationships

Ashley provides counseling in English and Spanish for children, teens, and adults. She supports clients navigating anxiety, family stress, identity exploration, relationship concerns, and emotions that can feel difficult to understand or manage.

Her approach is warm, grounded, and responsive to each person’s age, experiences, and needs. She blends CBT, trauma-informed strategies, play therapy, and emotion-focused approaches to help clients express themselves and develop ways of handling challenges.

Ashley brings respect for cultural differences and family experiences to her work. She offers a welcoming space for clients and families seeking bilingual care where they can feel understood and speak in the language most comfortable for them.

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Works with: Individuals, couples, and families
Focus: Relationships, trauma, and emotional connection

Jasmine works with individuals, couples, and families who want to understand themselves and their relationships more clearly. She provides trauma-informed care with a particular commitment to supporting BIPOC clients in a space where their identities and experiences are respected.

Her approach is collaborative, compassionate, and shaped around each client’s needs. She helps clients recognize relational patterns, work through difficult conversations, and build stronger emotional connections. With couples, she draws from Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method principles. Her broader work includes CBT, DBT, Solution-Focused Brief Therapy, Structural Family Therapy, and individual EMDR when appropriate.

Jasmine is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist-Associate, a certified Cognitive Processing Therapy provider through the State of Texas, and a certified sex therapist.

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Languages: English and Spanish
Focus: Anxiety, grief, cultural adjustment, and family relationships
Visits: In-person in Katy and online across Texas

Maria provides counseling in English and Spanish with warmth, curiosity, and respect for each client’s culture, identity, and lived experience. She supports people navigating anxiety, depression, grief, family relationships, cultural adjustment, and questions about who they are and where they belong.

She also works with clients who feel pressure to hold everything together—whether that shows up as perfectionism, self-criticism, imposter syndrome, or difficulty making room for their own needs. Her work includes support for migratory grief and the emotional challenges that can come with building a life in a new place.

Maria’s integrative approach draws from family systems, attachment-based, cognitive behavioral, and person-centered therapies. She offers individual EMDR when it fits a client’s needs, along with in-person counseling and secure online therapy across Texas.

Maria also leads our currently running Spanish-language group, Family Systems and Relational Healing. Contact our team to ask about the group or counseling with Maria.

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Works with: Adults
Focus: Trauma, anxiety, relationships, and life transitions
Visits: In-person in Katy and online across Texas

Adam is the founder and Clinical Director of Social House Wellness Company. He works with adults navigating trauma, anxiety, relationship challenges, stress, and major life transitions—including people who are used to achieving a lot while carrying more than others realize.

His style is grounded, direct, and collaborative. He combines Adlerian therapy, EMDR, Reality Therapy, and parts-informed work to help clients understand what they’re experiencing and find a way forward that fits their lives. Adam offers individual and group EMDR. His approach makes room for honest conversation, emotional safety, and working through what keeps showing up.

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